Couples Therapy
in Havant, Hampshire
Rebuilding connection, trust and intimacy
When a relationship begins to feel distant, stuck or painful, it can affect every part of your life. Many couples tell me they feel lonely even when they are together, caught in repeated arguments, or unsure how they reached this point.
Couples therapy offers a space where both of you can slow things down, feel heard, and begin to understand what is really happening beneath the conflict. Together, we can work towards clearer communication, emotional safety, and a renewed sense of connection — whether your relationship feels strained, wounded, or simply in need of care.
Even when things feel badly damaged, it is often possible to rediscover trust and intimacy. With the right support, couples are frequently surprised by what can be rebuilt when both partners feel safe enough to be open, honest, and real with one another.
How I work with couples
I bring over 30 years’ experience as a transpersonal therapist, working with couples across all life stages. My approach blends evidence-based relationship therapies -including Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) - with practical, body-based and relational work.
In our sessions we focus on what is happening between you in the moment. We gently identify unhelpful patterns of communication and find healthier, more meaningful ways of relating. Whether you are seeking couples therapy, marriage counselling or pre-marital support, my role is to help both of you feel equally supported, respected and understood.
What to expect
In the early stages of our work together, I will help you communicate more clearly and honestly, moving beyond the familiar cycles and “scripts” that can keep couples stuck.
You will begin to understand how past experiences are influencing your relationship today, and learn how to interrupt destructive patterns before they escalate. Importantly, we will also work on repairing past hurts - so that old wounds no longer shape your future together.
If trauma or significant loss is affecting your relationship, we will address this carefully and at a pace that feels right for both of you. This process often helps partners develop deeper empathy for one another and see their relationship - and each other - in a new light.
Common situations I work with
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Birth trauma, post-natal depression, balancing work, life, children and intimacy? jealousy, blended family pressures?
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Affairs, infidelity, teenage children, empty nest, communication failures, intimacy problems, menopausal libido loss, grief from the death of a parent or child, career changes causing tensions?
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Feeling haunted in a new relationship after being divorced or widowed, different needs, feeling guilt, facing loss and grief? Issues of intimacy and adapting physically to each other in new ways, in an age gap relationship?
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New relationship moving quickly, feeling out of control, fearing a loss of independence, preparing for relationship commitment, taking on new family relationships and responsibilities?
You don’t have to navigate this on your own.
To explore what your future relationship could look like, please contact me to arrange an initial session.
Book your first appointment today and begin creating the relationship you both want.